Re-centering myself mid-month to maintain a life rooted in discipline, gentleness, and happiness.

Integration means your grief becomes part of

Continuing Bonds is the understanding that we don’t “move on”

People often try to protect themselves from the discomfort of grief

Grief is not five boxes to check off.

Grief lives in the body.

Objects, recipes, songs, and sensory memories often carry more healing potential

You don’t “pass” through grief.

Grief isn’t predictable. You can feel steady one moment and overwhelmed the next without any clear trigger. These shifts aren’t signs that you’re “not coping.”

When you’re grieving, even the smallest tasks can feel heavy. One of the biggest lessons from my first year was learning to ask for help

This lesson took courage: allowing others to witness my grief.
Not everyone needs to have front-row seats, but someone should.

One of the most surprising lessons was accepting that grief affects your stamina; emotional, mental, and physical.
So instead of forcing myself to “bounce back,” I started treating my days like rehab.

In the early months of grief, I learned that my mind and body could not handle anything complicated.